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Date:2007-10-23 11:16
Subject:I love Dan Savage!
Mood: amused

I heart Dan Savage!

Barack Obama's Ex-Gay Problem
by Dan Savage

Barack Obama is still planning to tour South Carolina with an ex-gay/anti-gay preacher. Donnie McClurkin performed at the Republican National Convention in 2004—shouldn’t that alone disqualify him?—and has condemned “the curse of homosexuality,” declared “war” on the gays, and insists that Jeebus can turn gay people straight. He’s a bigot, pure and simple, and like other ‘mos I’m appalled that Barack Obama would tour a state, any state, even South Carolina, with the likes of McClurkin.

Now I’m not rabid on gay issues—really. I wrote John Kerry a check in 2004 after he came out for a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage in Massachusetts. (Which was after he came out against a federal constitutional amendment banning gay marriage.) And I was willing to support Obama—for vice president, preferably on a Gore/Obama ticket—after he came out for civil unions but against full marriage equality for gays and lesbians. I’m gay and I’d like to be married but I understand that the gay marriage issue is a fraught one for Dems and that politics is all about incremental gains and that we shouldn’t sacrifice the good on the altar of the perfect and blah blah blah.


Obama called for the Justice Department to fire an official that made “offensive and erroneous comments” about racial minorities last week. This week Obama refused to boot McClurkin from his South Carolina tour over McClurkin’s “offensive and erroneous comments” about gays and lesbians.

Here’s Obama:

“I have clearly stated my belief that gays and lesbians are our brothers and sisters and should be provided the respect, dignity, and rights of all other citizens. I have consistently spoken directly to African-American religious leaders about the need to overcome the homophobia that persists in some parts our community so that we can confront issues like HIV/AIDS and broaden the reach of equal rights in this country… I strongly believe that African Americans and the LGBT community must stand together in the fight for equal rights. And so I strongly disagree with Reverend McClurkin’s views and will continue to fight for these rights as President of the United States to ensure that America is a country that spreads tolerance instead of division.” 

Excuse me, but what the fuck? If believing in the “respect, dignity, and rights of all other citizens,” including gay and lesbian citizens, doesn’t preclude touring with a hate-monger bigot like McClurkin, what the fuck good is your support? How can the gay community “stand together” with assholes that have declared war on us? And I’m sorry, Barack, but if you choose to stand with McClurkin—if you give him a pass on his anti-gay bigotry—than your “belief” in our brotherhood isn’t worth a bucket of warm santorum.

This is too much. It’s one thing to reach out to conservative voters, which Obama has said he intends to do. It’s another to to stump with raving bigots like McClurkin. If Obama embraces people that judge others not by the content of their characters but by the contents of their rectums, well, Barack Obama isn’t not going to see any of my money or win my vote. 


Way to go Dan! I could not have said it better myself. Hillary 08!

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Date:2007-09-11 13:12
Subject:Never Forget

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Date:2007-09-06 08:20
Mood: sad

I just want to say how sad and moved I am today as I ponder the world's great loss and heaven's wonderful gain. The angels surely sing with an even more glorious sound now. A New York Times critic once wrote that Mr. Pavarotti's vocal cords were "kissed by God." Today he joins God's chorus.

I was overcome last night when I heard my favorite tenor had died. I was never lucky enough to see him live but my partner was able to on several occasions. He had the most beautiful voice I have ever heard and I will remember him fondly every time I put on one of his recordings.

In addition to his glorious instrument he was also well known for his humanitarian efforts to raise money to help those less fortunate than himself with his Pavorrati and Friends charity concerts. He will be remebered as much for this as for anything else. It is all part of his legacy.

My tears are but a few that will be shed for him this day. I pray for his family and friends and that they have the strength to get through. I also hope that memories of his long battle fade and only The Voice remains.

Good-bye, Maestro, God be with you.

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Date:2007-07-27 19:53

This is why she will have my vote. Not to mention her glorious debate performance. I am a sucker for a strong, intelligent woman.

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Date:2007-07-10 19:27

So, we went camping for the first time this year last weekend. We went to Gordon Bay Provincial park in Lake Cowichan. It was a fantastic weekend with wonderful weather and perfect lake conditions. The swimming was amazing. It was so good we are going again this weekend. The only problem is that Gordon Bay is all booked. At least all of their reservable sites are and we don't want to take the chance that we won't get a sight at all by just going and hoping for one of the first come, first serve sites. So, we decided to make reservations at one of the private campgrounds a mile or so from there. Should be fun. The new place is on a smaller feeder lake and is supposed to be 8 to 10 degrees warmer so swimming should be even better. This is where we are going...


This is where we were and where we camp most often...


The best thing about the trip was that we stopped to look at a vintage travel trailer on the way home and bought it!! It is a 1969 Shasta Compact! it is cute but does need some work. We are hoping to pick it up this weekend or sometime next week. Since we don't have much of a yard where we live and already have 2 cars in the driveway we had to secure a storage unit. I was able to find one in Lake Cowichan which is great. We camp their most often or even further up island and this way we don't have to tow the trailer up the Malahat every weekend. It will already be there. We can just hook up, go to the market and camp! Yea! After this weekend no more tenting! Woo and Hoo!

Anyway, I am hoping to have my photoblog ready tomorrow or at least before the weekend. I will link when I do have it done. It it so hot today that I think I am going to get a cold beer and head out on the deck.

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Date:2007-06-27 09:23

So, Canada Day long weekend. Bah. I wanted to go camping but everything is booked solid. We may try and go next weekend so we can be out of town during Pride. I just have no desire to vbe a part of it anymore. After so many years of putting it on and of being way too busy and way too visible in the gay community I am enjoying my privacy and anonimity. people still come up to me and ask if I was the one that used to be on tv or who owned that store or whatever but I am glad that I am no longer that girl. At least for now. So, we may head out of town for Pride weekend and just enjoy the weather...if it is good anyway.

This weekend I think I'll just take my camera and see what I can get into. Also, want to check out the Sooke Potholes Campground for possible Labor Day camping.

Moving on....Clive Davis! The man needs to get a grip and pull his head out of his very old ass. I don't know what he was talking about...My December is one of the best, if not the best, records of the year so far. Kelly Clarkson has never sounded better and as much as I liked BreakAway this cd is so much more personal, raw and real that it blows me away. Download it from iTunes peope or go buy it like I did. Do yourself a favor. It really is worth the money...take a good listen to Maybe, Chivas and Irvine. You'll be glad you did.

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Date:2007-05-07 11:39
Subject:Rambling...as usual
Mood: cheerful

I really wish that I could get disciplined enough to post here more often. 

I am still not sure if I am going to keep my new photo journal or just start posting pics here. I could do both but that would require more work than I may have time for at the moment.

New Heroes tonight. Also, Degrassi. I can't wait. I have been waiting for this episode for a long time. I really hope it is as good as I have built it up to be. I mean, One Tree Hill last week was actually better than I had anticipated as was Addison's Anatomy. LMAO Let's hope the trend continues.

I have to say even AMC is getting better these last few days. I think my thoughts on that may have something to do with the fact that PodBianca and her boyfriend are gone but who cares. I am having fun watching again and really...what is the point of having my office at home if it is no fun to watch my soaps? 

Speaking of my office, god do I need to clean it. I have been writing fan fiction all weekend and it looks like a hurricane hit it. Wads of paper all over the floor which my cats are not starting to play with and bat around. Half of them are downstairs now, creating more mess. Fun. I didn't mean to create even more a a playground for them. I am very pleased with the fic though. It has gotten a better response than I thought it would and I actually like the story and my own writing more than I usually do. Imagine that. I need to remember to post the rest of it here.

I am really looking forward to our trip to Seattle to see Within Temptation at the end of this month. I still can't believe that we are going to see a band that plays for 40,000 people in Europe at a small club in Seattle. And by small I mean small. I have never seen the club but it can't be as big as they are used to. What a shame. Hopefully touring with Lacuna Coil will be good for them and get them noticed here. Although they did have a song on the Blood and Chocolate soundtrack.  We have decided to make a mini-vacation of it so that my partner can get a hug from the hugging saint and I can take pictures at the Pike Street Market and in Olympic National Park. should be a fun week. I will hopefully have some fun pics to share after we get back.

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Date:2007-04-23 14:20
Subject:Posting my first LJ fic.
Mood: creative

I decided to post my new fan fic here. I have yet to post any to this journal. I mostly have used this to read fan fic but it is time that I expended a little more effort and now that my writer's block is over I guess I have a reason.

This story is born out of my frustration with the current state of All My Children in general and Bianca (BAM) in particular. I do not like that they made Maggie a cheater, I don't like Bianca turning into a giggling 13 year old over Zarfoe, I don't like that they wasted Liz for the majority of her three week stint on the show and I really don't like that Bianca has seemingly forgotten about Maggie. I guess I should be glad that the break-up and subsequent on screen destruction on Bianca has provided my fan fic muse with the kick in the butt it needed but...meh.

This story is about Maggie and Greenlee. I have no idea how it will end or if BAM will end up even being friends in it. I just know I needed to write this to work through my disappointment. Plus, I miss original Greenlee. 

Title: Weak in the Knees
Rating: PG to NC-17
Pairing: Maggie/Greenlee, poss BAM 
Timeline: 7-8 months in the future
Summary: Maggie is trying to put herself back together in Paris with the help of someone surprising. What happens when they head home to Pine Valley for the holidays?
Feedback: Constructive criticism and positive feedback always welcome and appreciated.
Distribution: I don't care as long as you ask first and let me know where
Disclaimer: All AMC Characters belong to ABC/AMC/Disney

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Date:2007-04-16 16:24
Subject:I have no words.
Mood: sad

I have no words to express my profound sadness, grief, disbelief and anger. My prayers are with the victims and their families from the Virginia Tech shootings today. I cannot even begin to comprehend what they are going through. My heart aches for them and with them.

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Date:2007-02-25 16:55

Can I just say...OMG...Reese (divorce looks good on her)...Cate( her dress)...
Cameron (Justin, who?)


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Date:2007-01-31 19:15
Subject:End of the World as I know It...

So...my mom passed away yesterday. I can't believe that it is real. Sally and I are leaving on the clipper tomorrow afternoon and then flying home from Seattle. neither of us has gotten our passports in the mail yet so we have to take boat, we can't fly into the US. My family of course does not understand why I could not just get there yesterday but...well I can only do what I can do. I kinda fell apart yesterday, Sally worked from home to help me through it. I am not sure how I am now except for numb.

Thank god for the BAM board. Those people have been amazing and have kept my mind off of things today. It sure is easier to bitch about AMC than to think about what I am flying home to. I get to be the bad, gay daughter who moved away. I am just really glad that I had a good visit with my mom just before Christmas when she was in the hospital. She was home and happy at the end and our last conversation was a good one.

I am scared to death to live in the world without my mom. I guess I will have to learn to deal though. I have a life here and a family of my own (if three cats and a dog count as family) and I am sure I will be glad to get home next Wednesday.

We are hoping to take at least one day while we are there to go and look at property so we can decide what area we want to live in when my honey retires. We are hoping to move back to Florida in about 3 years. But if we can find a place before that we can always rent it out till we are ready. Does it seem like I am thinking about anything but my mom right now? I am. I just can't let my mind believe she is really gone. I wonder how long this pain in my chest is going to last? I hope people are understanding when I get back if I am not my normal self for awhile...I am going to need them around though...to make me feel alive.

Anyway...so I may post before we go tomorrow or not...

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Date:2007-01-15 11:04
Subject:BAM icons...please help...

I need new BAM icons...no time to make...can anyone please help!!? BAM....Maggie...so hot....gonna watch again in an hour...OMG

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Date:2007-01-14 09:40

I can't wait...I have not been this excited to watch All My children in I don't know how long....maybe ever...Maggie is back...Maggie is back...Maggie is back...

I have read way too many spoilers and I only hope I am right about how I think this will go. Please let them sign Liz to a recurring contract...

In other news...the camera I got for Christmas is amazing...My lovely wife bought me the Canon Rebel XTi digital SLR. I have been having so much fun with it. We already bought a telephoto zoom lens...a remote control and yesterday we bought a bag, extra battery and the battery grip as well as a UV filter. I bought 2 different tripods last week. I have not had the chance to use it as much as I want but that will change this week. Everyone says I can make a living with my eye...lets see...

My mom is finally home from rehab. So after she got out of ICU and went into the facility it took a few weeks and she is home again and doing much better. I am so glad I flew home before Christmas. I didn't need to be there for all the waiting for her to decide to do the physical therapy, plus I wanted to spend Christmas at home with my Sally and the babies...lol...my three cats and one dog...pictures coming soon...lol

Flying back from Florida just before that big snowfall in Denver was a stroke of luck too. Now I have to go to the American Consulate in Vancouver to get my passport cuz there was no time while I was there due to the fact that right up until the day before we left some of the family thought we were going to lose her. Anyway...we will be getting the passport this week cuz we are planning a March trip back to Florida. Cool thing about that is that we are going to get to see Wicked while we are there. yea!

That's all for now....will post again later about the wonderful...powerful movie I saw last night...Children of Men...plus L word tonight...please let is keep getting better than last year...


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Date:2006-11-15 09:50
Mood: giddy

From the new Soap Opera Digest...it is a good day to be a BAM fan....

But there is a glimmer of good news for Pine Valley devotees, specifically the "BAM" fans who have been campaigning for Elizabeth Hendrickson (ex-Maggie) to return, as Eden Riegel (Bianca) did in October. When Digest quetioned Head Writer Megan McTavish about the on-air reveal that Maggie stepped out on gal pal Bianca, she had this to say: "Just to reassure the BAM fans, we're not saying it's over - and they may have a surprise coming up... Don't close the last page on the Maggie/Bianca chapter yet."

...Says a setside source, "I don't know if they are bringing her back, but I think she'd be open to doing it - maybe not long-term, but for a little while."

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Date:2006-11-09 13:15

It is such a good time to be a Democrat! As an American who lives outside the country, but who still votes in every election, I was thrilled to see my party take back control of our country. It was great to watch the Daily Show and CNN, it made me very happy. It was also great to watch my future President run to a landslide victory in New York.

After all that I am about to bubble over with the excitment that getting to see Bill Clinton speak tomorrow brings. I was stunned to find out he was coming to little Victoria, BC when they announced it those many months ago and I will forever love my wife just a little but more for getting us tickets. It is an early event, happening at 12:30 in the afternoon, but we are going to make a day of it and have date night after as well. I can't wait. I wonder if he will be signing copies of his book...I am guessing no...but it doesn't matter....

I am off now to do the shopping and dinner thing before my fav shows come on tonight! Speaking of fav shows...is that any way for the writers of Lost to leave us?!?!?

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Date:2006-09-15 10:38
Subject:Survivor...Rock Star and urine in hardwood...

Ok...so I watched Survivor last night. We were all sitting here and wondering why this is so controversial? While we were watching it we were cracking up. Most of the stereotyping was done by each team to themselves and I think this is going to turn interesting very quickly. I was not surprised to see one of the guys on that team voted out last night after the decision making by just the men thing happened. What did they expect after just jumping out there and not consulting the women when the women ALREADY out number them?!?!? Idiots...it always seems to me that contestants on this show have NEVER watched a previous season.

Rock Star: Supernova (although they lost that name so are now Rock star: Have no name)...I feel cheated. If they decided early on that Lukass was going to win, though why is beyond me, then why keep us all watching and voting? Why not just step up to the plate and admit it and move on? And for the love of all that is good and right...why put Dilana through the hell of the bitch edit like that?!?!?!? If a woman has no chance on this show and if the choices are going to be made within the first 2 weeks...hy should we watch it? I am not sure I can be strung along for another season as we all know now that INXS made their decision early to. What a lie and manipulation!

On a house cleaning note...our dog had an accident in the bathroom last week. I cleaned it up right away but now there is a bit of a smell. Does anyone know how to get urine smell out of hardwood?

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Date:2006-09-08 09:41

I have been a Xena fan for years. Hell...I even met my partner online in Xena chat. But watching Celebrity Duets....Lucy Lawless is scaring me. That is all.

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Date:2006-08-27 19:20

So...having the dog here living with us is going really well. He is already looking better and seems to be happier after only a week. I am sure he is going to dig it next month when we pick up the new minivan and take him camping. Now if we could only find a place to store the boat we would be laughing and life would be great.

Took a nice long walk today alone Dallas Rd. with S and Ed (the dog). He got lots of attention and seemed to have a ton of fun. He is sleeping like a baby now and we have finished dinner and are getting ready to watch the Emmy awards. I can't wait. I am sure I will have plenty to say tomorrow after the awards.

I am glad I am finally using this journal...up till now I have been using it mostly to deal with my femslash addition. "Hi, my name is Destini and I have a problem..."

So I am heading off to get the chocolate ice cream ready and watch te awards. Downloading some Within Temptation to listen to on the long weekend camping.

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Date:2006-08-14 17:03
Subject:User pics and activity

Well...I doubt too many people are reading this journal but for those that are I just uploaded some user pics. Most are of me but at least one is just a fav of mine.

I am hoping to spend a lot more time updating my journal and saying...I hope....sexy and witty and intelligent things....we shall see.

S, my partner, has a reiki appointment this afternoon. Her client is meeting her at the clinic today instead of her studio here at the house. That means she won't be home till after 6pm tonight. I guess that is fine because I am not cooking tonight and we can still have the movies back to Rogers and be home before Hell's Kitchen comes on. I don't want to miss tat..finale tonight! God I am such a geek sometimes...

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Date:2006-08-14 11:00

Which House of the Night Court Do You Belong To?

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